This was the cleanest "sexy" picture I could
find without being lewd.
Firstly, thanks to everyone who contributed to the sort of open discussion about sex addiction this Sunday. As I said, at the time I wasn’t ready to draw any conclusion as to whether or not I think it’s real, but now I think I’m close enough.
I suppose it makes sense that someone can be addicted to sex, just as someone can be addicted to gambling or eating. I can see how someone can be addicted to sex. Sex is fucking awesome. I’ve long said that it’s the most fun that two human beings can experience together. But I suppose that the problem arises when one’s sexual drive begins to negatively impact normal relationships.
Even that is a bit murky, though, because although I admit that sex addiction is probably real, I still think that some asshats use it as an excuse for poor behavior.
Take Tiger Woods and Jesse James for example. Tiger had all sorts of affairs and what not, and apparently got into some sort of car wreck over it. His excuse? Sex addiction. And then there’s Jesse James, Sandra Bullock’s former husband. He got caught cheating on her, publicly humiliated her, and then he blames it on sex addiction.
Are we really supposed to believe that?
Here’s the thing. Sex addiction is probably real and probably shatters real lives. There are men out there who have families, have been married for years, and for whatever reason cannot help but fuck every piece of tail that goes by. Then it gets so bad that he actually goes out looking for it because he can’t get enough. The appetite becomes so insatiable that it’s almost as if there’s a black hole left where his soul used to be.
The difference is, though, that he might recognize the wrongness of what he’s doing, he probably wishes that he could stop, but for whatever reason he lacks the will to stop. He can’t help but destroy his family, his career, and everything around him to feed his addiction. I don’t see this being the case with celebrities.
When you’re famous and at least mildly attractive, there’s probably at least a thousand women that would be willing to fuck you without you even knowing their names. These celebrities know that all they would have to do is ask, and they could have their pick of the litter. I like to think that I am fairly virtuous and that I would resist the temptation to be a total fucking douche bag, but I have to admit that it does sound awfully tempting.
So although Tiger might be sick because he had a family he was willing to throw away, I highly fucking doubt that Jesse James has anything wrong with him. I mean, he’s already getting married to that tattooed chick he was apparently banging while he was married to Sandra Bullock. So one moment he’s a sex addict douche, the next moment he’s willing to get married and be exclusive again?
Shit heads like Jesse James are just trying to save face. Although their sex life is not really anyone’s business but his and the people he’s fucking, it bothers me that people like him use sex addiction as a way to save face. “It’s not my fault! I have an addiction!” Bullshit. Guys like Jesse James are just like any other person who chooses not to keep it in their pants.
It’s probably not that he has an addiction or illness, it’s more likely that he just plain doesn’t give a shit about fidelity.