|She is probably not a prude . . .|
But if you're not married, then why does it matter whom you fuck?
Why should you even wait until you're married to have sex? I think there's a lot of people in America who, if asked the question, would say that pre-marital sex is wrong. Most Americans would probably also look poorly upon those who have sex with a partner that they're not even in love with.
What? Sex for fun and not necessarily love? I know, it sounds all hedonistic and horrifying, but lets consider a few things. First off, how many people reading this article have never had pre-marital sex? My guess would be that 99.9% of you did the deed before you were married, and even more than likely with someone who you didn't intend to marry.
I mean, c'mon. We've all been in high school. When you're a teenager you've got all those hormones coursing through your veins with reckless abandon. You've just discovered that you are a sexual being, and that you'd likely have sex with a meat grinder if it was warm enough. And even for those who presented themselves as being virtuous and above such carnal things often lost heart when standing at the precipice. I know I did.
But why do we think it's wrong? My bible knowledge on human sexuality is a bit fuzzy, meaning that I can't remember where or if in the bible it says that sex should only be done within the legal bonds of holy matrimony, but my guess is that even if the bible says that's the case, it's probably still not wrong. How? Well, we have to remember that the concept of marriage 2,000+ years ago was a bit different than it is now. First off, they were indeed allowed to take as many wives as they could afford. Secondly, there wasn't any legal binding about it, although marriage was considered a socially recognized institution.
But really, why should sex be limited to married couples? Our biology tells us that we're not scientifically meant for monogomous relationships anyways. One man could technically impregnate every woman in Europe that is able to bear children up until the day he dies.
I'm not saying that we should have sex, or try to, with every person we're sexually attracted to. I'm definitely not advocating promiscuity. All I'm saying is if two adults find each other sexually attractive then why should some people in society place a stigma upon them for doing the horizontal mambo? If we're all creations of God, then that means every aspect about our nature is something that God intended for us. Humans, like any other animal on this planet, are sexual beings, and human sexuality is a gift from God.
Humans are social animals, and we have no problem forming emotional intimacies with other humans. Am I emotionally promiscuous because I enjoy becoming emotionally close to more than one person? Of course not. So why is there such a difference between that and physical intimacy? Sure, it's extremely pleasurable (if you're doing it right) but there's nothing wrong with experiencing pleasure so long as you're able to moderate yourself and not become a slave to your desire.
So do we say sex should only be in marriage just because you think God says so? If sex is a way to experience God's love for us, does that mean the only way we can experience is love is in a heterosexual marriage?
Today was not so gritty, but tomorrow will be. We'll talk about some of the more deviant stuff, and why so many people have an aversion to it.