|C'mon, you're telling me that THIS is a bad thing?|
a) A federal ban on gay marriage
b) The Defense of Marriage Act (which is essentially a federal ban on gay marriage)
Please explain to me how the federal government has any power whatsoever to regulate this. Now if you recognize that the federal government does not have the authority to rule on this, and that DOMA is actually unconstitutional, think long and hard before you enter in the states' rights argument and go all "Reserved Powers," on me.
Marriage is a social institution. It has legal recognition because of all of the benefits and legal crap that goes along with it. But marriage was not created by the state. It is not a government institution. So why is it that some people feel that a state government has the authority to decide which kinds of marriage are to be recognized?
Please explain to me how it is legal for the state to say "Catholic marriage is okay, because it's always between a man and a woman, but Episcopalian marriage is only sometimes okay because sometimes it can be between a man and a man"?
So if you try to argue this from a moral basis, consider this: some codes of morality think homosexuality is perfectly morally permissible. For example, I believe that the Episcopalians don't regard homosexuality as a sin. So how can a state choose between one religion's moral code and another's? And please, don't give me the "well what if Episcopalians thought baby rape was okay," argument. Same-sex marriage does not violate anyone's right to life, liberty, or property.
And please explain to me how a gay marriage ban doesn't violate the 14th amendment. Race does not make people second-class citizens, and neither does sexual orientation.
Step up to the plate, people.